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About 2 months ago my best friend left to go live and work in France for 6 months. Of course leading up to it, we had to be positive, it was only 6 months.. Now she’s been gone, and we try to FaceTime everyday. I can tell you that it is the weirdest feeling knowing your best friend is in a different country and not a 2 minute drive from your house. She recently was away for a week and we hadn’t had a chance to really talk. So today we finally did! Man was it good to see her, even though it wasn’t in person. We caught up about all our recent news and it just felt so good to hear her voice.

As we continued to talk, I started to feel sad because I missed her so much, and then it stopped. At that moment I realized that it didn’t matter how far away she was, because  I felt her right there in my heart. I don’t care if that sounds cheesy but it is exactly how I felt. There she was sitting on my heart, keeping it warm for me. Even though I knew she was 6 hours away, I took some serious comfort in that feeling.

Then I thought about the people i’ve loved who are gone, and unfortunately not coming back. I thought about how much I missed them, and what I would do to see them again. Then it dawned on me, it’s not about seeing someone or hearing their voice, its really about how they make you feel. It’s been almost 5 years my grandmother has been gone, but I still feel her in my heart. I still feel the way I did when she used to make me laugh, or the way it felt when she would hug me.  Those feelings don’t go away, they get stronger, because you are certain to keep them around. Someone can be gone, but their presence really does linger.

Point is, I felt my best friend right there in that moment in my heart and that was exactly what I needed to keep me grounded. I thought this whole experience would be so hard, but it really hasn’t been that at all, because she’s been with me this whole time. They say you will forget what people said, but you will never forget how they made you feel and that’s exactly what I’m talking about. When you think about it, distance is really just a test to see how far love can travel.

30 thoughts on “distance means so little, when someone means so much.”

  2. I understand the feeling very well. My best friend also moved overseas for the past year and I miss the times when I can just meet with her to discuss a problem I’m facing. We chat online all the time but it’s not the same trying to discuss a problem that is best done in person.

    All I can say is…time will soon fly past and you can be together soon. Cheers! 🙂

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  3. I have always been the one leaving due to my husband’s job changes. At first I clung to the past, feeling I would never be “right” until I got back home. After 26 years, I have come to realize home is where love is and that is with him. And I never let go of people who matter to me. There are so many ways to daty in touch. In many ways my ling distance friendships are stronfpger than those right at my doorstep! You are so right. 🙂

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  5. I know how you feel! I used to spend most everyday with my best friend and then I moved. I miss her like crazy but we text a lot and I know she’s always there for me.

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  8. I know exactly how you feel. In late august last year, I went away to college about 5 hours from my home town. I left my family, my best friend, and my boyfriend. It’s such a tough thing to go through being away from your family and loved ones. The way I see it though, is the more you are away and long to see your loved ones, the more the time you are together will be appreciated.

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  9. I’m so happy for you that you feel this way! In my situation it was me who left, and I missed my friends back home like crazy! It’s exciting to be in a new place, but I felt so lonely without them, as if a part of me was left behind. I did my very best to keep in touch and not loose the connection. But in my case (and in case of all the people I know, who were away for more than a couple of years) it turns out to be almost impossible to maintain the connection. Lives become too different and new people fill in the gaps. It’s so sad, but it’s life. I wish for you to stay close with your friend. So much depends on you, on how much you are interested in your friend’s new life and experiences and how much you want to be part of it, even from the distance. Thank you for this beautiful post!!!

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  10. I know the feeling. I live in PA and my stepsons live with their mother in CO. It’s not easy being away from them and even harder on my husband. But it makes the time we are with them all the more special. Hang in there. You’ll see her soon.

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  11. Thanks for following my blog. I look forward to following yours. I used to be quite the drama queen but then realized how much it affected my life. Plus, I had so much loss in my life, that I just couldn’t live in depression anymore or I’d spend my life there 🙂

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  13. Awww so sweet. Don’t you find that with those really special friends it doesn’t matter how long it’s been since you last saw them? I have a handful like that. Thanks for the follow. I look forward to reading more of your blog.

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  14. I can’t imagine going abroad before modern conveniences like email and skype. It must have been terrifying. I’m sure that your friend going abroad will help her grow as a person, and it’s good for you as well!

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  15. I’ve been doing the LD thing for 7 years. 4000 miles and it always feels like he is right next to me.

    It makes your friendship stronger than ever. It pushes you to find innovative ways to stay in touch. It gives you something more to be excited about when they visit or you visit them.

    I wouldn’t swap mine, not for anything. It truly enforces my belief that we really are all connected.

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  16. The first time I move abroad I left one of my best friends behind so I know the feeling. Then when we met again it felt like we had left each other only a couple of days ago. I know a couple that had to remain seperated for three years because the woman had to finish her education abroad. At the time they were newlyweds. Their love got stronger. The distanced confirmed their choice to get married. They’re now even more happily married. When you guys see each other again, you will realize that time almost feels like an “illusion” when your love for each other is real.

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  17. I completely understand! My husband if from Australia and we met online so for about a year we were Skyping and traveling back and forth until he moved here. Those goodbyes were so hard! But we are so close. Then almost 2 years ago, my best friend moved across the country. I still miss her so much even though we Skype each week for a couple of hours and send texts. I tease her that sometimes I hear her voice in my head telling me things to do in certain situations or I think of how we would crack up over something that happens. Thanks for checking out my blog. I’m glad you liked it! And now I’m glad I’ve read yours 🙂

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  19. As someone who met his future wife when she was living on another continent I could not agree more with you. 🙂 (And, thanks for following my blog!)

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  22. This is exactly what I feel now! My bestfriends and I got job in different island, thus she get married. I’m happy for her, but also I was sad because I feel lonely. We always together and had a great moments. I really missed her. I will always keep my beloved person in my heart, no matter how far the distance. Thank you for sharing your feelings! This is a great post. I’m sorry to hear about your grandma.

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  24. What a beautiful testament to the true power of love!Thank you for sharing this realization and reminding us how to pull that energy back into ourselves, into our own hearts, and into the present moment!

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